Aside from having a separate residence established, meeting someone who is at this stage is the strongest indicator that the divorce is very likely to happen.He may be at the beginning stages or further along in those conversations, but the fact that he is having them indicates he is truthful about his intentions.
Equally important, I have found that guys that are currently separated ALWAYS downplay the emotional and financial toll it is taking on them.
In their defense, I have found that they are typically in denial or unaware of how daunting the divorce process is.
Typically, there is still a long way to go in the divorce process, but retaining an attorney is not inexpensive. By this point everyone (children, extended family, close friends) is typically aware of the situation.
This is one of the final hurdles in the divorce process.
Most importantly, I have found that the divorce process ALWAYS takes longer than these currently separated dudes EVER realize!