Whether we like it or not, our family experiences have played a large role in shaping us in all sorts of ways – our likes and dislikes, our approach to communication and conflict, and what we instinctively consider to be “normal”.
Early on in any new relationship, it’s wise to get a sense of how someone thinks about (and relates to) their parents and siblings.
This doesn’t always turn to be the case; no matter how much phone or email chemistry you share. Not a single spark.) Secondly, when you meet someone online, it’s easier for your imagination to get carried away by that heady mixture of excitement and hope.
(I once exchanged emails with someone for months and then flew internationally to meet him. It’s easier to idealize someone – to imagine that they possess all sorts of exceptional qualities and traits, and that they would make an ideal partner.
Finally, most of us are not as careful when we meet someone online as we would be if we had met them in a coffee shop.
We share more details about ourselves, more quickly.
If you’ve just met someone online that you’re interested in, the fact that they have a terrible or broken relationship with family members shouldn’t be an automatic deal breaker.