Lots of women don’t take the time to think through HOW and WHY a man becomes distant.
And therefore they can’t notice it or see it as a problem to address when it comes up. Instead of identifying these for what they are (part of his natural “masculine” tendency to pull away and focus in an emotionally uninvolved way), she feels rejected, unappreciated or deadened by it.
How many men do you know who get together with their friends to talk about their feelings and discuss the details and meaning of the relationships in their lives? That’s why it’s FASCINATING to recognize that lots of men actually value NOT SHARING these things (feelings, emotions, meaning behind relationships).
Men who are this way often say or think things like: “It’s better if we don’t talk about it…” Or…”Why do you nag me about this stuff?! So, what’s a woman to do with a man who thinks or talks this way? Ok, I can’t make that decision for you, but a man MUST BE willing to be part of the learning process that IS a relationship. Or is all this talk about learning to understand more about men feeling like too much “work?
Translation – if he’s open to learning and growth in some way, then he’s not a lost cause. ” THE POWER TO UNDERSTAND IS THE POWER TO CHANGE AND GROW Since men aren’t going to magically change their biological make-up, personalities, or brain chemistry any time soon, let me ask you an important question…
Ever wonder how in the world you’re supposed to get closer to a man and connect with him, let alone have a real relationship, when he won’t even open up, listen or share what’s going on inside?