But after surveying experts and sifting through exclusive-to- research about romantic success, we were surprised to learn that, in many ways, date no. “That’s when you start to learn about your shared interests, ideas, and goals — all the things that can knit people together,” says Fisher. If you’re not sure about a person, why waste another two hours with him?
The thing is, first dates usually aren’t amazing ... Well, here’s the reason: Turns out that guys who are serious about finding love (read: not just out for a hookup) are willing to put in that extra time.
In both the US and UK samples, dishonesty declined with age.
Maybe older people are just more interested in projecting their real self, rather than an imagined or ideal version.
But a smarter dating strategy may be to think of reasons to say yes.” It’s also the second date where shit gets real and you figure out if the person is worth pursuing.