Another way to tell your origin story, however, goes something like this: Your boyfriend’s marriage was ending, but like many marital endings, it wasn’t clean and it was painful for both people involved. One might have wanted the divorce and the other didn’t.
Or the decision to divorce might have been mutual but both still had to grieve the loss.
This version of the story could play out in various ways, but most likely it will keep you locked in place.
Even if you find your boyfriend to be completely trustworthy going forward, you might carry the pain of this early time into your future, along with the belief that his not pursuing his divorce in the way you wanted reflected some deficiency in his love for you and/or deficiency in his moral compass.
He would promise to do a specific task at a certain time but then continuously forget to do it.