Linda* was elbow deep in dishes after dinner when she heard the sound of her cat hacking up a hairball.
The 32-year-old had a choice: keep scrubbing the plates in the sink, or clean up the mess she knew was awaiting her in the living room. Linda’s husband had also heard the cat throw up, and he expected his wife to drop the dishes and get down on the carpet.
“On one of our first dates, he compared himself to Alexander the Great and Napoleon, saying, ' I was born at the wrong time.
Alexander the Great and Napoleon had conquered worlds by my age.'" Although remarks like this point to narcissism, they're easy to ignore when you're infatuated, or to even view as a funny display of a partner's confidence.
Research published in 2013 in the may shine a light on why narcissism isn't always easy to spot at first.
The findings suggest there are two different dimensions of narcissism, and they can affect relationships differently over time.
"He flew into a rage," she describes, "yelling at me for not saying good morning and for not staying in bed a few minutes to snuggle.