Ask not only about their conviction but about the circumstances that led up to their choice. I personally would suggest meeting someone with a little bit of time left. You can find a jewel anywhere, anywhere at all – but just like when you’re at a garage sale, be careful. Extra time gives you the best opportunity to get to know them and solidify whatever foundation you can. If you imagine the person’s return to society to be easy, or the time with them while they’re in prison to be easy, maybe change your perspective. If you’re locked up and getting more locked up [put in solitary], that is a sign. If they’re in for robbery and going to the hole [solitary] for stealing food from the chow hall, that’s a clue. An inability to be accountable or responsible, combined with poor decision-making, should be further clues. If you don’t mind this, great, but know to inquire ahead of time so you at least have a head’s up on this. In the absence of conjugal visits in most states, how do you know if you’re sexually compatible?
Give yourself a minimum of three or more months to get to know this person. That may enable you to withstand the weight that goes with their return to society. Be mindful that a lot who are getting out have little to no money, and if they do, their immediate goal will most likely be to get situated and stabilize their self. The response from friends was funny when I showed them this. There are opportunities in here to better one’s self. Phone conversations and erotic letter writing are ways to gauge if a spark exists.
By: Matthew Walker, Contributing Writer So you’re looking for love?
You’re one of those who has yet to find that person to walk your journey with.
They can empathize with difficulties as they arise and can be leaned on for advice, especially regarding the lopsided, seemingly one-way aspects that come up. and their first day out they want to go drinking, maybe that’s a head’s up. Perhaps some aren’t allowed to work elsewhere, but here all are.